So Steady As You Go
In this day and age of love and relationships, it is a game and the best players seem to end up the winners. When did it become so hard for us to be honest with one another? Why is it that we crave the game and not the participants?
Perhaps it comes from our desire to always win. As corny as it sounds, we like to think that if we work hard enough and try long enough that we will succeed in any task we tackle. But then it seems to become apparent that love is not a game at all but indeed something much greater than a game.
Love is many things, many of which go beyond any justice words could give. But for arguments sake in this article, love is about choice and weather or not you are in it for the player or for the win. Do you pursue someone because you like them or because you just don’t want to be alone? Do you pursuer them because they are enticing or because there is a lack of better options?
Perhaps the initial reasons for chasing after someone is irrelevant but as time progresses, they are either worth it because you care or because you won’t give up on another conquest. To those seekers of winning and not the heart, find another game and stick with it. The heart is tender yet strong all in one but never deserving of being played. You cannot pass go. You cannot collect $100. In matters of the heart, it is a winner takes all or game over. There is not much room for anything in-between yet there often is. We either hope to win or hope to find someone who is in it for the right reasons.
People often jokingly say “Don’t hate the playa, Hate the Game?” Why not both? Why would anyone care about someone or a game that is short lived and normally leaves one person, sometimes both, hurt?
There are just some things that shouldn’t be toyed with and the heart is one of them. Continuous damage to the heart leads to pessimists and more players, something the world NEVER needs more of. The players are no more than lovers screwed over one too many times so they give up on hoping that something real will actually materialize in their life.
Never give up on the power that genuine care and love can have in your life. It has changed me many times over when I wanted to give up.
Love also means being afraid because only when love is involved do you have something to lose that really matters: you heart. We love whether or not we are ready or prepared. There is no planning involved (goodness knows I’ve tried) and it is almost always with someone who is some way a surprise in your life. When you love someone, you miss them even when you wish you didn’t. You want to be with them even when you know it’s the right thing to be away. You want them to be happy, either with you or someone else (even though we always think we are the best for them regardless). So go on, Be afraid. If your not, how much do they really matter to you?
